You are good at what you do…and you know this. You always push yourself to excel in whatever you do…and you know this. You manage to juggle relationships, children, and social commitments with relative (exterior) ease…and you know this. However, what does it profit you to gain all the accolades, achieved goals, degrees, and check marks on your “To Do” list if your soul is left wanting? Sweetheart, it is time to focus on the inner you because you are about to crash — cape and red lacquered heels included. Often, we can be so good at all things exterior but fail horribly at nurturing our inner-self…our higher-self. Do you know who she is? Are you honoring and prioritizing all the things that nurture your internal growth so that you can maintain the level of output you put yourself through? What are you doing to cultivate your well-being? How in the world did you manage to become MORE busy during a COVID pandemic than before?!
I have always been an advocate for self-care. It became my mantra before it became a catch phrase. Raising three young, extroverted, and strong-willed girls, I always fight to make time for myself so that I can prioritize my spiritual, mental, and physical needs. I make it a point to realistically maintain some of my personal interests and hobbies. It is an important act of self-preservation. Too many women lose themselves in the roles they play in life — an ill-placed and self-imposed sacrificial stake. When my husband of 15 years was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer at the young age of 41, I pressed in, against all odds, to continue that sacred work of self-care. I understood that for me to function, care for others and remain anchored during life’s storms, I had to take time to decompress and renew my strength. I am proud to state that I have an advanced degree in self-care.
Let me explain the importance of the sacred act of prioritizing your mental, spiritual, and physical health. As a woman, you embody the super-ordinary ability to create and cultivate life, whether that is literally, in the form of childbearing or figuratively, in the form of launching a business or forming partnerships, etc. You must not let life’s burdens or blessings cause you to abort the life force within you that is the very essence and core of who you are. It is critical that you find a way to preserve the most important asset you have and that is YOU. Let me give you a sneak peek into what that may look like and let the gasping begin.
I am THAT mom who may take an extra hour on occasion to pick up the kids so that she can enjoy a cup of coffee. I am THAT mom who will book a massage and dine alone with Thai food and a glass a wine and relish every second. I am THAT woman who will book a hotel room and hibernate to recharge. I am her because I am THAT woman who defies all odds and rises to the occasion in every circumstance. I succeed, I do what I do and do it well. How you ask? Because I prioritize my mental, physical, and spiritual health so that when it is my time to perform in any capacity, I bring 100 percent to the table and thrive. This is not being selfish, this is being wise, aware of my boundaries, my limitations, and most importantly, my worth. The adage that says that you can’t pour from an empty cup is more than a notion.
The greatest return on investment that you can make is on yourself. Quiet yourself and your mind and be intentional about recharging and investing in yourself so that you can see fruit that is long-lasting. As a person who likely displays compassion and care to so many loved ones in her life, now is the time to show some compassion and care to yourself. Being overstretched and overly busy is not a badge of honor, it is your kryptonite. It is a sign that you are unbalanced and suffering from internal disrepair. Darling, I know you are a star but kick off your heels, remove your cape and gently place it to the side (you will suit up again shortly). Let’s start taking care of the inside. It takes courage to say what you deserve and in this season, you deserve self-care.
Coach Angela Kerri is a certified wholistic life coach specialist for high-performing, professional women. As a published author, motivational speaker, and certified reiki practitioner, Coach Angela Kerri is an expert in applying powerful universal principles through her signature coaching program that allows women to experience internal transformation and thrive during life transitions. For more information or booking inquiries visit: www.angelakerri.com.